“…you don’t love him.”

“If you just love him for his looks and sense of humour, you don’t love him.”

-Amisha Verma

I want to be a mother….and I am just 17.

I want to be a mother….and I am just 17.
No I am not out of my mind, nor am I planning to have a baby yet, but in future. Maybe when I am 27 or something.
But the point here is that IT IS my dream.
I mean whenever a person asks me what you want to be when you grow up, I simply answer “I want to be a mother”.
Tell me what is bad in that and why do people judge?
They never asked me what career I want to pursue, just what I want to be.  And no I ain’t nuts, not at all.
Its just that pregnancy and motherhood fascinate me.

Oh and before I talk about the fascination ahead, tell me why do people just assume I am saying “I want to have sex” whenever I say “I want to be a mother“. Seriously?
People have sex because they want to have sex, not always to have kids. Get over it. Mature!

So where was I? Yeah. Fascination for pregnancy and motherhood. I mean what is there to not be fascinated about.
You have a human developing inside you. Your body has two hearts. Whatever you eat or drink is being shared with a little human, even if you don’t want to share that scoop of chocolate ice cream. You just don’t have an option to not share it. Its so funny. (am i the only one that finds it funny? Okay ). Your breathing for 2 bodies. Your somehow connected to it. A thing growing inside you which would eventually be telling you it loves you mom with its gestures, after a couple of years it would say “your  the best mom ever”. You may not be the best daughter, not the best wife, but for that child, that baby you had inside you for 9 months, your the best mom, the most beautiful person,their first love. All the labour you have gone through is forgotten the day the child calls you MOM for the very first time.
You might have fights when the child grows up, but both of you know how much love you have for each other.
The smile on the childs face when you would say “yum” when they try their hands on cooking for the first time, even if its really bad would be equal to the smile you would have on your face the first time they walk.
Being a mother is difficult I  know but nothing else is equally rewarding.
Being a mother makes a woman stronger than ever. You can hold your baby in your hands the whole day and still be on your feet. To all the weightlifters, can you?
Being a mother makes you glow. The same glow your mother had when you were inside.
If you are a mother be proud.
People who say love at first sight exists claiming that a mother falls in love the first time she sees the infant’s face are obviously not aware of the connection, the bond, the love that started when the human was inside her, just a single cell. They don’t know you loved it even before you saw its face.
I want to say hats off to the females who have adopted children. You are strong. You may not have created that human from a single cell, but you surely will make a good human being. I trust you.
I am happy and proud to be a female.
I know half of the males reading this wouldn’t understand my fascination towards motherhood and pregnancy but all the mothers out there would.
People out there think of me as naïve, maybe I am, but I understand that being a mother is a full time duty which people who think being a mother is a joke wouldn’t understand.

Thank You ❤

P.S. HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY!

“ALL YOU NEED IN LIFE IS LOVE”

“ALL YOU NEED IN LIFE IS LOVE” and I stand by it!

I have heard many people say that ‘no, love is not what you need, love doesn’t help you survive, it doesn’t pay your bills, etc.’

Do you agree? Atleast I don’t.

Love, helps you stay sane in times of crisis because you know there is someone you can pour your heart to, someone is there to hug you and tell you that every storm ends with a bright day. Love makes you strong, it encourages you to follow your dreams, it stands by you on the bumpy roads of achieving your dreams.

Love doesn’t pay your bills but it makes you realise your worth and what you are made of, which pushes you forward, nearer to success. It makes you feel complete!

It may be wife-love, husband-love, boyfriend-love, girlfriend-love, friend-love, mother-love, child-love, father-love, any-love! JUST UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! 

They may not understand what you are going through, why you are doing a certain thing, but they will always be there to support you and guide you!

Love is not materialistic, you can not compare it to mere things like paying bills, it is felt with all 5 senses!

Thank You! ❤

 

5 REASONS WHY HAVING A GUY BEST FRIEND IS AMAZING…!

Well having a guy best friend is really fun and amazing, and to be frank this is something many people can relate to. So without saying anything further here are 5 reasons why having a guy friend is amazing,

1. Egos don’t clash. A guy’s ego clashes with his guy friend, a girl’s ego clashes with her girl friend but in case of a guy-gal friend, egos rarely clash. Continuing  from that, fights are never THAT serious (most of them), but even if they are serious, things solve pretty easily as there is no ego problem as compared to a fight with one of your female friends.
2. A guy friend is the best person to discuss about your boy friend problems as he will be able to tell you what’s going in his mind, I mean being a guy they would think similarly.
3. Talking is easier. You aren’t continuing bitching about someone like gal friends do, which leads to mental peace (I mean I end up having a headache if I continue bitching for a long time, I don’t like it at all!).
4. You don’t have to give him gifts, even if it is his birthday (well its true in my case).
5. You can discuss about sex with him freely. Ask queries about things related to it. Its like seeing sex by a guy’s point of view.

“A good friend will come and bail you out of jail, but a best friend will be sitting next to you saying, ‘Damn, that was fun’!”
―     Kate Angell,     Curveball

THANK YOU…!! ❤

MY POINT OF VIEW ON LOVE…

According to me you can be anything for the person you love.  If I love someone I would be a sister to him if he wants, go away from him if he wants, be his best friend, anything if thats what he wants and if thats what makes him happy.  Your happiness doesn’t matter then. Its second priority.  Thats why people say love only happens once. You can give so much selflessly to just one love interest in a lifetime. If you don’t get him and are in a relashionship or married to someone else you are a bit greedy a bit selffish. You WANT the love  now you WANT the attention.  If I don’t get that person, because you can’t force anyone to fall for you, I would cherish the time we had spent together, be happy that he is happy. At least in future I can say i loved this person truly and purely without any demands.  The point is that to me love is  soul not life as other people say.  For me he is my soul, once the soul is lost my body shall live, my heart shall beat but my soul shall die.

Everyone has different point of views on love and everyone is correct.

THANK YOU. ❤

THE NOTEBOOK…

Well I haven’t actually ever written about a book, I mean a book review or anything, so well this is my first time, and to be frank this is not a book review. I was not into reading romantic novels at all. I was more into sci-fi mystery sort of stuff.  Actually THE NOTEBOOK was my first romantic novel. This book somehow changed the way I think, the way I feel, the way I look at things, everything. It was sort of a life changing book for me. Everyone has that life changing phase, may it be due to an experience, a person, a movie, or maybe a book, like it was for me. The reason I bought this book was its cover, and the fact that girls of my class were gushing about Nicholas Sparks. Before you judge me saying that I judge a book by its cover, I DON’T! I did in this case because it was my first time buying a romantic novel.  So yeah as I was saying I bought this book, came home, got comfortable on my beanbag and the once in a lifetime journey began. Yes, it was like A ONCE IN A LIFETIME JOURNEY FOR ME, though now I have read it like 10-11 times but I still remember the way I felt when I read it for the first time. I read MIRACLES (people who have read it would know that it is the 1st page) and started admiring Nicholas Spark’s way of writing, the way he has described THE OLD MAN and the surroundings, the way he has conveyed how many years have gone by, everything. By the time I was at page number 7 i.e. GHOSTS, it was just me and the book. I remember having not eaten anything for 29-31 hours (I don’t exactly remember but it was like more than 1 and a half day or more than that). You could actually feel what Noah’s thoughts, Allie’s dilemma, her fiancé’s jealousy or even the mother’s  possessiveness for her daughter. You can not say who was right or who was wrong as everyone was right in their own way, everyone’s feeling were justified. I am a very pessimist sort of person, always looking at the darker side of life, this book taught me TO BELIEVE that everything can be right if you truly want it to be. I did not believe in true love or anything of such sort but this book taught me that love exists. It taught me that if you truly love someone let them go and if it is meant to be you will spend rest of your lives together. It taught me that you don’t have to be together to love each other, you can be at far off places and still be together, you don’t have to be near each other to love. It taught me to keep loving even if I might not get any in return. It taught me to keep trying even if I fail. The main thing it taught me is was YOU ONLY LOVE ONCE! Any relationship before or after that specific relationship is attraction, liking, lust, or maybe somewhat close to love, but never love! If you love someone truly, your life from now is not your own, its theirs’. LOVE IS SELFLESS and if you think you love someone but your life is more important to you than theirs’, then you don’t love that person truly, its just a feeling close to it but not love. The second most important thing it taught me was FOLLOW YOUR HEART!

“Poets often describe love as an emotion that we can’t control, one that overwhelms logic and common sense. That’s what it was like for me. I didn’t plan on falling in love with you, and I doubt if oyu planned on fallin gin love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. We fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created. For me, love like that has happened only once, and that’s why every minute we spent together has been seared in my memory. I’ll never forget a single moment of it.” ―     Nicholas Sparks,     The Notebook

THE NOTEBOOK according to me is a must read to understand what love is! THANK YOU and keep loving! ❤

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5 REASONS ITS GOOD TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP….

I did a 5 reasons its good to be single I guess 2-3 days back so I thought lets do a 5 reasons why its good to be in a relationship. So here they are-

1. You have someone to support you. I know this is a bit selfish point but you constantly need someone to hug you and just say that everything is alright.
2. You have someone to nag all the time. Your childhood stays alive if you keep nagging a person 😛 . Not too much though, it may lead to a breakup but yeah its fun. (No wonder I am single!)
3. You have someone to spend your free time and weekend with if you don’t live in the same city as your family.
4. You have someone to get ready for! Your not aimless or clueless to what to wear. You know you have to look good for her/him.
5. YOU FEEL COMPLETE AND CONTENT!

“Know that love is truly timeless.”
―     Mary M. Ricksen

After writing this I feel bad (again) of being single 😦 .

THANK YOU! ❤

A WAY TO MAKE YOUR GIRL SMILE…

This video was made by a really sweet friend of mine for his girlfriend who was really very angry with him. They have been in a relationship for more than 2 years, which is a really long time.
Well I actually want to say is that this is a really good way to propose or make you girl smile if she is angry or maybe even surprise her on her birthday maybe. Not only for the guys, girls can also do it for their man (guys like computer savvy girls 😉 ). Why only for your partner, it would be amazing to surprise your father or mother on their birthday on father/mother’s day and maybe even for a close friend of yours!
THANK YOU! ❤

5 REASONS BEING SINGLE IS AMAZING…

Well I am single so yeah me and my friend were discussing why its good to be single and here are 5 reasons why-

1. You can flirt with anyone you want but if your in a relationship, this my friend would be known as cheating.
2. You don’t have to remember many things like: his/her birthday, your anniversary, when and where did you meet, when did you first kiss, etc.. If you forget your friends birthday its okay but if you forget your partners birthday you my friend are in great trouble.
3. Continuing from the previous point you don’t have to worry over gifts, because you just can’t give him/her anything, it has to be of their favourite colour, something that reminds them about you guys, something that you won’t give to a friend of yours, etc.
4. Their is no one to pester you every now and then and answer questions like where are you, what are you doing, who you talking to, etc.. Especially for guys, their is no one to disturb you or pester you while you are gaming (except if you have a person like me as your girlfriend who doesn’t care if your gaming or not and most probably would want to join you!).
5.  You don’t have to dress up for anyone just for yourself. You can wear whatever you like and feel like wearing. You don’t have to wear anything keeping a person in mind and you don’t have to constantly think he likes this colour, she loves this tie, etc..

“Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.”
―     Mandy Hale,     The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

I hope you liked it.

THANK YOU!  🙂

5 THINGS THAT MAKE YOU SAD…

I am really sad and there is no denying it. I have been thinking why. There are many reasons and maybe its not only me but many people around the world sad and feeling pathetic due to the same reasons. So here they are-

1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE– I guess most of the people are not satisfied the way they look. I AM FAT , which depresses me. People just don’t fall in love with fat and ugly people even if they like their company or even if that person is the sweetest person you can imagine of.
2. FIGHTS– Fight with your bestfriend, boyfriend, girlfriend, parent or anyone that means a lot to you makes you feel sad.
3. PARENT’S EXPECTATION– Well I guess this point is the saddest one, seeing your parents sad because of you is really heart breaking. Eg. In my , my mom dad want me to be a doctor, but I don’t think I am that capable of it. I told my parents about it they were so disappointed which was and is very sad. The only reason I am studying to be a future doctor is my love for my parents. I on my part always wanted to study literature.
4. FAILURE IN LOVE– Love failure is I guess experienced by everyone, either it be a break up , got cheated on or even one sided love. The feeling that both of you can not be together (mostly in one sided love) is extremely torturous, you just can’t stop thinking about it. The happy memories that you guys had made turn into painful and sad ones once you think of them after a break up or divorce.
5. DISTANCES– When you start getting the feeling that the friendship or relationship is at the edge and might fall off. The feeling you get when you guys realise the bond between both of you is changing and not for good. When you know there is some type of wall building up between both of you. All of this is sad and the more heart breaking one is when you are somehow distanced from your parent or child.

“I didn’t want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep. And that’s really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare, like when you wake up from a nightmare you’re so relieved. I woke up into a nightmare.”
―     Ned Vizzini ,It’s Kind of a Funny Story

THANK YOU ❤

P.S. I don’t know how to bounce back from depression in any other case other than the first, the one about physical appearance, because you know what? Start to love yourself, its your body, a gift of God, love it because it’s yours and it’s unique!